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FOCUS ON SPEAKING SKILLS 10/04/12
Speaking Tips for Anyone Who Talks

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Take the next step in your speaking life by registering for our next “How to Overcome Stress in Public Speaking” 3-day workshop. Don't put it off.

WHEN: November 7, 8, 9, 2012 (See details below.)

Past newsletters are archived on my website, along with articles and tips to make you a better speaker. Go to www.GettingOverYourself.com.

In this issue:

  1. Watch those debates and help your speaking
  2. Dear teach
  3. What should you wear?
  4. Quotes can make it lively
  5. Take a look at our resource list
  6. Attend another workshop for half price
  7. November Workshop in Pasadena/ In-house seminars

On my blog, someone suggested this website for quotations: http://shortquotes4u.blogspot.com/

SPEAKING LESSONS FROM THE DEBATES

The presidential debates can offer you free speaking training so I suggest you watch them and look for some specific things. If you tape it, you can watch once for content and once for improving your speaking. (You really have to put your personal prejudice for both candidates aside for you to get the most out of this exercise.)

Things to look for:

If they interrupt does it seem pushy or passionate?

How many times do they sidestep the question and give a pre-programmed answer?

What are they doing while the other person speaks? Are they listening? Frowning? Looking interested? Frustrated? Angry?

How well do they stay within the allotted time?

Do they shift their weight back and forth? Grip the lectern?

How steady are their eyes?

And note as well how any anomalies strike you. For instance, during the debates, President Clinton didn’t stand behind a lectern and it worked for him. Al Gore came out from behind as well and it didn’t work for him. It isn’t always what they do or say, but whether or not it seems comfortable or forced.

There are subtleties in speaking that affect how your audience perceives your message. These debates are an incredibly naked and brutal forum for a speaker. And, has been said many times, running for office and governing take two entirely different skill sets.

But watching them can be a great help in your own efforts to be a better speaker. Watch and learn.

DEAR TEACH

Daniel B. Wood, Los Angeles Bureau Chief, Christian Science Monitor: “Whenever I heard the phrase, 'public speaking is everyone's greatest fear,' I was glad to know that others were terrified as well. My palms began to sweat whenever I thought of doing something as basic as a simple toast./p>

“Taking your course has helped me overcome this lifelong dread. Now I look for ways to use the ideas from class in situations both small and large -- which is not like the previous ‘me.’/p>

“It was fun and moved quickly (it didn't seem like 3 days) and we all became eager for the next exercise. I loved seeing the everyone's delight as they, too, were having lightbulbs go off about issues that had troubled them their whole lives./p>

“And it was special to hear one of the others change direction from resisting giving talks at work to looking forward to it with his new set of speaking and persuasion tools./p>

“Thanks, Barbara.”

“WHAT SHOULD YOU WEAR AT A TALK?”

We’re aiming to be invisible and direct them to the message and to act on that message, and that includes what you wear.

So:

  1. Is the group conservative, creative, formal, informal? Observe how they dress and dress similarly, but a little sharper, to show your respect for them and the occasion.
  2. Is the room well-lit? If not, wear stronger colors and a light color near your face. Note the wall color behind you so you won’t fade into or clash with it.
  3. Choose a color that makes you feel good. (Women have more leeway with color than men and should use it. Drab and mousey can interfere with a strong presentation.) This still must mesh with point number 1.
  4. Brand new clothing is risky; too many opportunities for surprises.
  5. If you’re unsure about what you’ve chosen to wear, ask a friend whose judgment you trust to verify your choice. Or get some help from an image consultant you’re comfortable with.

QUOTES TO MAKE YOU A BETTER SPEAKER

“We can always choose to perceive things differently. You can focus on what's wrong in your life, or you can focus on what's right. ” – Marianne Williamson

“You are only what you are when no one is looking. ” – Robert C. Edwards

“The purpose of life is not to be happy - but to matter, to be productive, to be useful, to have it make some difference that you have lived at all. ” – Leo Rosten

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RE-ATTEND FOR HALF PRICE

As a refresher, workshop graduates (from any of my 3-day workshops) may attend for half price at any time. People have said they get as much or more out of the workshop the second time around.

WORKSHOP

“How to Overcome the Stress of Public Speaking”

Pasadena Sheraton: 3-day workshop November 7, 8, 9, 2012

I have two public seminars each year: Spring and Fall.

Registration for the 3-day workshop: $1095. Discount for three or more attendees from the same company.

If you have a number of people who could use this training, please call or e-mail regarding an in-house seminar.

Visit www.gettingoveryourself.com for details
or call (626) 792-8075.
Mailing address: P.O. Box 60521, Pasadena, CA 91116

BOOKS, AUDIO and VIDEO

Book

“Getting Over Yourself: A Guide to Painless Public Speaking and More” by Barbara Rocha, 210 pages, 2nd Edition, 2004, illustrated, cartoons $19.95.

The basic text you'll definitely want to walk you through the pitfalls of public speaking. If you're not comfortable speaking, you must have this book.

CD ROM

The “Getting Over Yourself” book read by the author. (set of two): ($19.95)./p>

Pocket-size books $9.95 each

“Pocket Guide for Presenters,” 103 pages

The Cliff Notes version of “Getting Over Yourself.” No cartoons, and less explanation of the whys and hows. Just the right size to take with you for a quick reminder of all those points you learned in the full size edition or in my seminar.

“60 Ways to Spark Your Speaking: Just in Time Answers to Frequently Asked Questions,” 154 pages

Answers specific questions you may have with “what to do when . . .” questions, such as how to deal with a boss who takes over during your presentation, or how to handle your visual aids in a crisis, or how to proceed if everyone is focused on your broken nose.

“Love to Talk, Hate to Speak? How to Gain Confidence in Front of Any Audience,” 121 pages

A collection of short vignettes on various parts of speaking you'd like to know more about, such as more information on holding the audience's attention at the end of your presentation, being confident in those first moments before you start to speak, or using the elements of a good conversation to make it easier and more natural speaking to a group.

Tips booklets $5. each. Can be ordered in quantity for a discount.

“111 Tips for Getting Results When You Speak”

“108 Tips for Engaging Your Audience and Solving Those Pesky Speaking Dilemmas”

“17 Myths of Speaking”

Speeches on tape:
“From Bored Room to Board Room,” $10.95

“Stand Up and Stand Out,” $10.95

DVD
“Getting Over Yourself: A Guide to Painless Public Speaking” featuring Barbara Rocha in excerpts from her book, seminar classes and interactive coaching. 48 minutes. $99.95

To Order:

Call (888) 800-2001

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Write: Bouldin Hill Press at 17-555 Bubbling Wells Rd. Desert Hot Springs, CA 92241

Send a check for the amount of the order plus $3 for each item. For 3 or more items, add $2 per item. Or include your credit card information (name as shown on card, card billing address, expiration date and phone number), as well as shipping address.

For more information, contact:

Barbara Rocha and Associates

PO Box 60521, Pasadena, California 91116

(626) 792-8075



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