Editor's Corner Excerpted from the August 2010 Newsletter FOCUS ON SPEAKING SKILLS 10/06/10 Speaking Tips for Anyone Who Talks LOOK FOR BARB'S BLOG -- A STEADY FLOW OF SOUND ADVICE AND IDEAS at http://gettingoveryourself.wordpress.com Take the next step in your speaking life by registering for our next “How to Overcome Stress in Public Speaking” 3- day workshop. Don't put it off. WHEN: October 25, 26, 27 (See details below.) Have you missed issues of the newsletter? They're archived on our website, along with articles and tips to make you a better speaker. Go to www.GettingOverYourself.com. In this issue: Is anybody there? First person What if they know more than you do? Quotes can make it lively Take a look at our expanded resource list Attend another workshop for half price October Workshop in Pasadena/ In-house seminars IS ANYBODY THERE? It's a question that may come from the speaker or from the audience. It might even be asked this way: “Is anybody home?” If you're the speaker, and you're there and you know the audience is there the audience won't need to ask. They'll know you're there because you do. And you'll know because you are. Take time to be there before you start. Many speakers plunge right in because they want to get it over with or because they're out of control, or even because they think the audience isn't worthy. None of these will serve you or the audience well. Again, before you start, take time to be there. And to embrace the audience as a part of the process. Shut down the racing breath and racing mind and be clear on why you and the audience are doing this. See the benefits to both of you. Even if it's not good news there are benefits to the audience of hearing it. And take time to look at the audience. Make sure you're seeing them as individuals (not personalities). Yes, see them. And see them needing and applying the information you're about to give. Have your first few words clear in your mind before you say anything. And as you say them, mean them. FIRST PERSON Joe Elliott, Owner, Elliott Management, Construction Project Management: “The presentation course I took from you when I was with Turner Construction transformed me into someone who can secure a job with a presentation. You are fantastic -- I still refer to my notes from the course when I prepare.” WHAT IF THEY KNOW MORE THAN YOU DO? Usually you'll know more about your subject than your audience does. Sometimes you don't. Ideally this won't happen, but if you let it throw you, you'll feel bad and lose ground. If it doesn't throw you, it can turn into a plus. Even if you were supposed to be the knowledgeable one, you can adjust and turn into the moderator. Do that with grace and dominion and it won't be a problem. When you allow others to display their knowledge and look good, they'll feel good about you. It's when you act as though you should have known more and as though you're inferior that you lose the audience. You won't feel good, either. Emerson said, “You set your own price.” Just let them go ahead and be smart and you'll come out just fine Quotes to Make You a Better Speaker Charles Jehlinger, Acting Coach: “The fellow who underrates himself is as the one who overrates himself, for he is using the same amount of self-thought.” “Don't let yourself be a fool and just pronounce words. Mean something.” “Never anticipate.” “Being interested in your own work, in your personal progress is the greatest obstacle to progress.” “You'll never improve as long as you try.” “You must have freedom from thoughts of self.” “Trying to avoid making mistakes is the biggest mistake you can make. Don't be afraid.” FORWARD THIS NEWSLETTER TO A FRIEND Thousands of people have to give presentations every day, and that includes people you know. Take a moment to forward this newsletter to them. And encourage them to sign up for their own subscription. RE-ATTEND FOR HALF PRICE As a refresher, workshop graduates (from any of my 3-day workshops) may attend for half price at any time. People have said they get as much or more out of the workshop the second time around. WORKSHOP "How to Overcome the Stress of Public Speaking" Pasadena Sheraton: 3-day workshop October 25, 26, 27, 2010 I have two public seminars each year: Spring and Fall. Registration for the 3-day workshop: $1095. Discount for three or more attendees from the same company. If you have a number of people who could use this training, please call or e-mail regarding an in-house seminar. Visit www.gettingoveryourself.com for details or call (888) 800-2001 or (626) 792-8075. Mailing address: P.O. Box 60521, Pasadena, CA 91116 Book "Getting Over Yourself: A Guide to Painless Public Speaking and More" by Barbara Rocha, 210 pages, 2nd Edition, 2004, illustrated, cartoons $19.95. The basic text you'll definitely want to walk you through the pitfalls of public speaking. If you're not comfortable speaking, you must have this book. Audiotape or CD ROM The "Getting Over Yourself" book read by the author. Audiotapes (set of three): ($17.95); CD ROMs (set of two): ($19.95)./p> Pocket-size books $9.95 each "Pocket Guide for Presenters," 103 pages The Cliff Notes version of "Getting Over Yourself." No cartoons, and less explanation of the whys and hows. Just the right size to take with you for a quick reminder of all those points you learned in the full size edition or in our seminar. "60 Ways to Spark Your Speaking: Just in Time Answers to Frequently Asked Questions," 154 pages Answers specific questions you may have with "what to do when . . ." questions, such as how to deal with a boss who takes over during your presentation, or how to handle your visual aids in a crisis, or how to proceed if everyone is focused on your broken nose. "Love to Talk, Hate to Speak? 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