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FOCUS ON SPEAKING SKILLS 06/01/2015
Speaking Tips for Anyone Who Talks

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Take the next step in your speaking life by registering for our next “How to Overcome Stress in Public Speaking” 3-day workshop. Don't put it off.

WHEN: May 6, 7, and 8, 2015 (See details below.)

All our books are now available as e-books on our website. Kindle versions are also available on Amazon.

Past newsletters are archived on my website, along with articles and tips to make you a better speaker. Go to www.GettingOverYourself.com.

In this issue:

  1. 3 Steps to better gestures
  2. How to deliver bad news
  3. Quotes can make it lively
  4. Take a look at our resource list
  5. Attend another workshop for half price
  6. May Workshop in Pasadena/ In-house seminars

3 STEPS TO BETTER GESTURES

Gestures are often more helpful to your audience than PowerPoint slides because they are visual and help the audience see your point. Slides should do that, but usually aren't designed for that purpose--more's the pity.

You're missing the boat when you don't use any, or when they're self-conscious, or when they don't match what you're saying. Sometimes what feels odd to you, or overdone, is the very thing that keeps the audience focused and helps them get your point.

So here are 3 things you can do to help make your gestures relevant and to make them happen more naturally:

  1. Become more aware of what your hands are doing when you're involved in a conversation. Some people who tell me they never use their hands are surprised to find that when engrossed in a conversation, they do tend to illustrate points with gestures. So, what you're doing unconsciously you need to become conscious of. Not all of them may be useful, but you can be aware of that, too.
  2. Actively include stories, examples, and analogies that resonate with you, as you put together your talk. Those things will automatically bring focused, appropriate expressions to your face, and make it more likely that you'll use your hands to describe them.
  3. Practice your speech silently at least one time. Usually, the ideas run pretty smoothly in our heads. It's when we try to say them aloud that we may get tangled up. So, practice silently while focusing on how you might use your hands to illustrate the points in a conversational way. It's okay to exaggerate them for the purpose of helping your body remember. So, that when you're actually in front of the audience, you won't try to copy them, they'll just happen naturally. You're kind of giving your body permission, plus a little support.

HOW DO YOU DELIVER BAD NEWS?

Nobody wants to deliver bad news. But, once again, it's not about you--it's about what's going to happen to these people as a result of the bad news. Don't try to protect yourself because you'll surely make a mess of it, if you do. You have to focus on them, how they feel, and what can be done to help them move forward. Once you get the focus off yourself, you'll find it much easier to look at it from your audience's point of view.

Perhaps they know it's coming and are braced for it--which is often the case--even as they hope it's not true. And I'd surely get to it as quickly as possible. Sort of like yanking off the band-aid rather than dragging it out with irrelevancies. You may use a story that helps illustrate the situation, but don't tap dance. "I know you've all heard the rumors, and I'm sorry to tell you they're true." And if you’re actually sorry, and they can sense that, you can pull off the rest of it as you explore solutions.

Usually people need to know the bad news in order to get on with their lives, to figure out what to do next as a result of the bad news. Keeping it from them would surely result in some inappropriate decisions.

If they don't know it's coming, you still can't focus on yourself, and you can't pretend everything is okay. In this case, you will probably need to give a brief review of the situation in such a way that they begin to see where things are headed.

In every case, it's vital to think about the effect on the audience of the news and possible ways to deal with it, rather than worrying that they'll shoot the messenger. Because if you worry about that, your blinders will make it more likely that they will take it out on you.

QUOTES TO MAKE YOU A BETTER SPEAKER

“The greatest barrier to success is the fear of failure.” — Sam Goran Eriksson

“Without a humble and reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.” — Norman Vincent Peale

“Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” — Christopher Robin to Winnie the Pooh

“Mistakes are the portals of discovery.” — James Joyce

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WORKSHOP

“How to Overcome the Stress of Public Speaking”

Pasadena Sheraton: 3-day workshop May 6, 7, 8, 2015

I have two public seminars each year: Spring and Fall.

Registration for the 3-day workshop: $1095. Discount for three or more attendees from the same company.

If you have a number of people who could use this training, please call or e-mail regarding an in-house seminar.

Visit www.gettingoveryourself.com for details
or call (626) 792-8075.
Mailing address: P.O. Box 60521, Pasadena, CA 91116

BOOKS, AUDIO and VIDEO

Book

“Getting Over Yourself: A Guide to Painless Public Speaking and More” by Barbara Rocha, 210 pages, 2nd Edition, 2004, illustrated, cartoons   $19.95. (E-book Version   $13.95)

The basic text you'll definitely want to walk you through the pitfalls of public speaking. If you're not comfortable speaking, you must have this book.

CD ROM

The “Getting Over Yourself” book read by the author. (set of two): ($19.95)

Pocket-size books     $9.95 each
E-book Version     $5.99

“Pocket Guide for Presenters,” 103 pages

The Cliff Notes version of “Getting Over Yourself.” No cartoons, and less explanation of the whys and hows. Just the right size to take with you for a quick reminder of all those points you learned in the full size edition or in my seminar.

“60 Ways to Spark Your Speaking: Just in Time Answers to Frequently Asked Questions,” 154 pages

Answers specific questions you may have with “what to do when . . .” questions, such as how to deal with a boss who takes over during your presentation, or how to handle your visual aids in a crisis, or how to proceed if everyone is focused on your broken nose.

“Love to Talk, Hate to Speak? How to Gain Confidence in Front of Any Audience,” 121 pages

A collection of short vignettes on various parts of speaking you'd like to know more about, such as more information on holding the audience's attention at the end of your presentation, being confident in those first moments before you start to speak, or using the elements of a good conversation to make it easier and more natural speaking to a group.

Tips booklets $5. each. Can be ordered in quantity for a discount.

“111 Tips for Getting Results When You Speak”

“108 Tips for Engaging Your Audience and Solving Those Pesky Speaking Dilemmas”

“17 Myths of Speaking”

Speeches on tape:
“From Bored Room to Board Room,” $10.95

“Stand Up and Stand Out,” $10.95

DVD
“Getting Over Yourself: A Guide to Painless Public Speaking” featuring Barbara Rocha in excerpts from her book, seminar classes and interactive coaching. 48 minutes. $99.95

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