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Speaking Tips for Anyone Who Talks

A STEADY FLOW OF SOUND ADVICE AND IDEAS at http://gettingoveryourself.wordpress.com

Take the next step in your speaking life by registering for our next “How to Overcome Stress in Public Speaking” 3-day workshop. Don't put it off.

WHEN: Nov 5, 6, 7, 2014 (See details below.)

All our books are now available as e-books on our website. Kindle versions are also available on Amazon.

Past newsletters are archived on my website, along with articles and tips to make you a better speaker. Go to www.GettingOverYourself.com.

In this issue:

  1. You have the power
  2. Dear teach
  3. How do you diffuse hostility?
  4. Quotes can make it lively
  5. Take a look at our resource list
  6. Attend another workshop for half price
  7. November Workshop in Pasadena/ In-house seminars


All that noise rattling around in your head when you have a presentation to give can be stopped. You have the power. Really. You do.

It's a no-brainer to figure out that the noise gets in the way of your message. And that it keeps you knowing how well you're doing with your audience. And that you'd like it to stop.

But the inner argument tends to lean towards convincing you that it has to be that way. It doesn't.

I used to suffer from doubts, fears, uncertainty–major noise–when I had to speak. I know it how feels. It's not fun. And happily it's not necessary.

First, stop arguing on the side of the problem. Instead, remove yourself from the equation and concentrate on what you have to give the audience and how you can help them. If you have nothing to give them, don't bother speaking.


Angie Polocarpio, Executive Director Health Economics and Outcomes Research at Boehringer-Ingelheim

Well, our big presentation is over, and I just had to tell you the glowing feedback I got from the entire group. Thank you so much for your insights and pointers, it really helped me a lot.

For some reason I was extremely nervous that morning, even though the group was smaller and I have certainly presented before. The things you talked about replayed in my head: Damn the torpedoes, full speed ahead!! I'm there to help… Breathe (and I breathed, A LOT!) Once I was up there, I remembered to stay in the moment. I collected myself and made eye contact with every person in the room and smiled.

I told my story and used the slides just as a visual aid and not the slides as the story. The pauses… also worked wonderfully- something I never incorporated before. You would have thought I won an award, after I was done; I had people stopping me to tell me what a great presentation. Your class really worked. It made the difference between a good presentation and a memorable presentation.

My boss told me I did a wonderful job and what a big difference from last spring, and I responded “See that training paid off!!” Thanks again and I plan on visiting your web site to keep me on track as often as I can. Have a fantastic weekend.


If you know ahead of time there's going to be a problem, work on it from the very beginning. Structure your talk to show you're aware of and respect their point-of-view.

In addition, throughout your talk, connect with the audience members — relate to them as fellow human beings. People don't want to attack someone who they feel connected to. Even if you have different approaches to the problem, a connection with them will eliminate the roughest spots.

If a hostile question comes out of left field, maintain your feeling of relationship, listen to them as equals, and avoid feeling superior or defensive.

Look at the situation from the questioner's point-of-view. Value their right to have it even though you disagree. And listen to them. Then you have a common ground on which to solve the issue.

And never be dragged down. As someone has said, “Never wrestle with a pig. You just get dirty and the pig likes it.”


“Throw your heart over the fence and the rest will follow.” — Norman Vincent Peale

“How long should a speech be? As long as it's good. As soon as it stops being good, it should end.” — Soundings

“No one conquers who doesn't fight.” — Gabriel Biel

“Behold the turtle. He makes progress only when he sticks his neck out.” — James Bryant Conant


Thousands of people have to give presentations every day, and that includes people you know. Take a moment to forward this newsletter to them. And encourage them to sign up for their own subscription.


As a refresher, workshop graduates may attend for half price at any time. People say they get as much or more out of the workshop the second time around. To register at the discounted price go to: www.gettingoveryourself.com/seminar/repeat.htm


“How to Overcome the Stress of Public Speaking”

Pasadena Sheraton: 3-day workshop Nov 5, 6, 7, 2014

I have two public seminars each year: Spring and Fall.

Registration for the 3-day workshop: $1095. Discount for three or more attendees from the same company.

If you have a number of people who could use this training, please call or e-mail regarding an in-house seminar.

Visit www.gettingoveryourself.com for details
or call (626) 792-8075.
Mailing address: P.O. Box 60521, Pasadena, CA 91116



“Getting Over Yourself: A Guide to Painless Public Speaking and More” by Barbara Rocha, 210 pages, 2nd Edition, 2004, illustrated, cartoons   $19.95. (E-book Version   $13.95)

The basic text you'll definitely want to walk you through the pitfalls of public speaking. If you're not comfortable speaking, you must have this book.


The “Getting Over Yourself” book read by the author. (set of two): ($19.95)

Pocket-size books     $9.95 each
E-book Version     $5.99

“Pocket Guide for Presenters,” 103 pages

The Cliff Notes version of “Getting Over Yourself.” No cartoons, and less explanation of the whys and hows. Just the right size to take with you for a quick reminder of all those points you learned in the full size edition or in my seminar.

“60 Ways to Spark Your Speaking: Just in Time Answers to Frequently Asked Questions,” 154 pages

Answers specific questions you may have with “what to do when . . .” questions, such as how to deal with a boss who takes over during your presentation, or how to handle your visual aids in a crisis, or how to proceed if everyone is focused on your broken nose.

“Love to Talk, Hate to Speak? How to Gain Confidence in Front of Any Audience,” 121 pages

A collection of short vignettes on various parts of speaking you'd like to know more about, such as more information on holding the audience's attention at the end of your presentation, being confident in those first moments before you start to speak, or using the elements of a good conversation to make it easier and more natural speaking to a group.

Tips booklets $5. each. Can be ordered in quantity for a discount.

“111 Tips for Getting Results When You Speak”

“108 Tips for Engaging Your Audience and Solving Those Pesky Speaking Dilemmas”

“17 Myths of Speaking”

Speeches on tape:
“From Bored Room to Board Room,” $10.95

“Stand Up and Stand Out,” $10.95

“Getting Over Yourself: A Guide to Painless Public Speaking” featuring Barbara Rocha in excerpts from her book, seminar classes and interactive coaching. 48 minutes. $99.95

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(626) 792-8075

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