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Take the next step in your speaking life by registering for our next “How to Overcome Stress in Public Speaking” 3-day workshop. Don't put it off.

WHEN: November 7, 8, 9, 2012 (See details below.)

Have you missed issues of the newsletter? They're archived on our website, along with articles and tips to make you a better speaker. Go to www.GettingOverYourself.com.

In this issue:

  1. It's not about the Queen???
  2. Dear teach
  3. How can I not take it personally?
  4. Quotes can make it lively
  5. Take a look at our resource list
  6. Attend another workshop for half price
  7. November Workshop in Pasadena/ In-house seminars


If you were the Queen of England, celebrating your 60th year on the throne with many thousands of people shouting "Hip, hip, hooray," would you be able to carry it off without being self-conscious?

Did you notice how joyous the Queen looked at every part of the celebration? She had to have been thinking about her love for her country and its people. Because if she had been thinking it was about herself, it would have looked awkward.

Yes, Queen Elizabeth has had a lot of practice, but if you'll think about how beautiful, joyous, and serene she looked, maybe you'll be inspired to work on not thinking it's about you when you're in the spotlight.

You can choose to think it's about you, or you can look at the larger picture and choose to think about that.


Carlos Sauceda, Category Manager, Easton Bell Sports

“Recently in a presentation to our European distributors (people from all over the world with English as a second language), I used mostly visuals in the PowerPoint presentation with as few words as possible. As I spoke I remembered to pause, tell the story and engage the audience.

“To my surprise there were almost no questions at the end, so I was cautious as to how well it went. Afterwards we arranged for each person to meet with our team in smaller groups to discuss the products we showed. During these meetings it became clear that they had held on to my presentation, as they were prepared and asked relevant questions.

“It was a fun experience for me, mostly because I knew that no one cared about me! Thanks so much for your help.”


“When someone questions my information, how can I not take it personally?”

I'll agree it's easy to take it personally when someone attacks you or your information, but it's counterproductive because it hurts your case. The fact that they question it doesn't affect your credibility, but if you react poorly, it does.

So, remain above the fray by removing your ego from the situation and focus on what this person is trying to get at. Does this person have a vested interest in the info? Is he/she a perennial troublemaker? Annoyed because you got the promotion?

And on the other hand, perhaps you weren't sufficiently connecting with your audience because you were worried about remembering your presentation. In that case, they might be reacting to that lack of connection, which means you need to warm up, become human, and respond kindly.

Actually, you need to respond kindly no matter what. I don't know any other way to have that work successfully than for you to check your ego and think about the situation from the questioner's point-of- view. And think about how you can help.


“Avoid having your ego so close to your position that when your position falls, your ego goes with it.” Colin Powell

“Don't worry when you are not recognized, but strive to be worthy of recognition.” Abraham Lincoln

“To err is human; to admit it, superhuman.” Doug Larson

“Don't judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seeds that you plant.” Robert Louis Stevenson


Thousands of people have to give presentations every day, and that includes people you know. Take a moment to forward this newsletter to them. And encourage them to sign up for their own subscription.


As a refresher, workshop graduates (from any of my 3-day workshops) may attend for half price at any time. People have said they get as much or more out of the workshop the second time around.


"How to Overcome the Stress of Public Speaking"

Pasadena Sheraton: 3-day workshop November 7, 8, 9, 2012

I have two public seminars each year: Spring and Fall.

Registration for the 3-day workshop: $1095. Discount for three or more attendees from the same company.

If you have a number of people who could use this training, please call or e-mail regarding an in-house seminar.

Visit www.gettingoveryourself.com for details
or call (626) 792-8075.
Mailing address: P.O. Box 60521, Pasadena, CA 91116



"Getting Over Yourself: A Guide to Painless Public Speaking and More" by Barbara Rocha, 210 pages, 2nd Edition, 2004, illustrated, cartoons $19.95.

The basic text you'll definitely want to walk you through the pitfalls of public speaking. If you're not comfortable speaking, you must have this book.

Pocket-size books $9.95 each

"Pocket Guide for Presenters," 103 pages

The Cliff Notes version of "Getting Over Yourself." No cartoons, and less explanation of the whys and hows. Just the right size to take with you for a quick reminder of all those points you learned in the full size edition or in my seminar.

"60 Ways to Spark Your Speaking: Just in Time Answers to Frequently Asked Questions," 154 pages

Answers specific questions you may have with "what to do when . . ." questions, such as how to deal with a boss who takes over during your presentation, or how to handle your visual aids in a crisis, or how to proceed if everyone is focused on your broken nose.

"Love to Talk, Hate to Speak? How to Gain Confidence in Front of Any Audience," 121 pages

A collection of short vignettes on various parts of speaking you'd like to know more about, such as more information on holding the audience's attention at the end of your presentation, being confident in those first moments before you start to speak, or using the elements of a good conversation to make it easier and more natural speaking to a group.

Tips booklets $5. each. Can be ordered in quantity for a discount.

"111 Tips for Getting Results When You Speak"

"108 Tips for Engaging Your Audience and Solving Those Pesky Speaking Dilemmas"

"17 Myths of Speaking"


The "Getting Over Yourself" book read by the author. (set of two): ($19.95)./p>

"Getting Over Yourself: A Guide to Painless Public Speaking" featuring Barbara Rocha in excerpts from her book, seminar classes and interactive coaching. 48 minutes. $99.95

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