Editor's Corner FOCUS ON SPEAKING SKILLS 04/04/2013 Speaking Tips for Anyone Who Talks LOOK FOR BARB'S BLOG -- A STEADY FLOW OF SOUND ADVICE AND IDEAS at http://gettingoveryourself.wordpress.com Take the next step in your speaking life by registering for our next “How to Overcome Stress in Public Speaking” 3-day workshop. Don't put it off. WHEN: May 1, 2, 3, 2013 (See details below.) All our books are now available as e-books on our website. Kindle versions are also available on Amazon. Past newsletters are archived on my website, along with articles and tips to make you a better speaker. Go to www.GettingOverYourself.com. In this issue: Stop worrying about the words Dear teach How can I get back the audience if I've lost them? Quotes can make it lively Take a look at our resource list Attend another workshop for half price May Workshop in Pasadena/ In-house seminars STILL WORRYING ABOUT THE WORDS? It's time to get the hang of this: It's not the words. It's your connection. And while certain words and ideas may resonate with an audience, you'll never make it happen if you concentrate on getting those words right. Have a conversation with yourself talking about the ideas that matter to this crowd on this subject. Chat (aloud is good) with yourself about how you might go about making those points. Get yourself in the habit of thinking in ideas and stories rather than in words. People listen to stories and ideas. So use them and let the words come. DEAR TEACH Tim Myatt, Engineer, Verizon: “Your public speaking class was one of the best, if not the best, classes I have ever taken. I was definitely challenged by it, but I appreciate the excellent information and abundant encouragement you gave us. It was great for my self-confidence and is helping me personally as well as professionally. “I think everyone should take your class regardless of where they are in their speaking or in their lives. Thank you for all your help.” HOW CAN I RE-ENGAGE THE AUDIENCE? Usually we lose them because we've lost ourselves - - thinking about what's coming up, or how we're doing, or getting into someone else's thinking. Staying in the moment means not having to answer this question. But if it happens, you pretty have to stop. Just stop. Talking, feeling unfocused, worrying. Get yourself back on track and then start afresh. When you do that, there's an energy that transmits itself to your audience that re-engages them. And, you'll change direction because you're back in the game. Summarize the points you've made all ready- - succinctly and with an eye to how they're affected by those points. Or, tell them you're going to take a different approach. Or, admit you've lost them and ask them what they want to know. Or get them to summarize what you've been saying and why it matters to them. You're never lost if you don't try to pretend you're perfect. QUOTES TO MAKE YOU A BETTER SPEAKER “You can have brilliant ideas, but if you can't get them across, your ideas won't get you anywhere.” — Lee Iacocca “The less people know, the more they yell.” —Seth Godin “I don't like that man. I must get to know him better.” —Abraham Lincoln “If communication is not your top priority, all of your other priorities are at risk.” —Bob Aronson FORWARD THIS NEWSLETTER TO A FRIEND Thousands of people have to give presentations every day, and that includes people you know. Take a moment to forward this newsletter to them. And encourage them to sign up for their own subscription. RE-ATTEND FOR HALF PRICE As a refresher, workshop graduates may attend for half price at any time. People say they get as much or more out of the workshop the second time around. To register at the discounted price go to: www.gettingoveryourself.com/seminar/repeat.htm WORKSHOP “How to Overcome the Stress of Public Speaking” Pasadena Sheraton: 3-day workshop May 1, 2, 3, 2013 I have two public seminars each year: Spring and Fall. Registration for the 3-day workshop: $1095. Discount for three or more attendees from the same company. If you have a number of people who could use this training, please call or e-mail regarding an in-house seminar. Visit www.gettingoveryourself.com for details or call (626) 792-8075. Mailing address: P.O. Box 60521, Pasadena, CA 91116 BOOKS, AUDIO and VIDEO Book “Getting Over Yourself: A Guide to Painless Public Speaking and More” by Barbara Rocha, 210 pages, 2nd Edition, 2004, illustrated, cartoons   $19.95. (E-book Version   $13.95) The basic text you'll definitely want to walk you through the pitfalls of public speaking. If you're not comfortable speaking, you must have this book. CD ROM The “Getting Over Yourself” book read by the author. (set of two): ($19.95) Pocket-size books     $9.95 each E-book Version     $5.99 “Pocket Guide for Presenters,” 103 pages The Cliff Notes version of “Getting Over Yourself.” No cartoons, and less explanation of the whys and hows. Just the right size to take with you for a quick reminder of all those points you learned in the full size edition or in my seminar. “60 Ways to Spark Your Speaking: Just in Time Answers to Frequently Asked Questions,” 154 pages Answers specific questions you may have with “what to do when . . .” questions, such as how to deal with a boss who takes over during your presentation, or how to handle your visual aids in a crisis, or how to proceed if everyone is focused on your broken nose. “Love to Talk, Hate to Speak? How to Gain Confidence in Front of Any Audience,” 121 pages A collection of short vignettes on various parts of speaking you'd like to know more about, such as more information on holding the audience's attention at the end of your presentation, being confident in those first moments before you start to speak, or using the elements of a good conversation to make it easier and more natural speaking to a group. Tips booklets $5. each. Can be ordered in quantity for a discount. “111 Tips for Getting Results When You Speak” “108 Tips for Engaging Your Audience and Solving Those Pesky Speaking Dilemmas” “17 Myths of Speaking” Speeches on tape: “From Bored Room to Board Room,” $10.95 “Stand Up and Stand Out,” $10.95 DVD “Getting Over Yourself: A Guide to Painless Public Speaking” featuring Barbara Rocha in excerpts from her book, seminar classes and interactive coaching. 48 minutes. $99.95 To Order: Call (888) 800-2001 Order online at www.gettingoveryourself.com E-mail: BouldinHil@aol.com Write: Bouldin Hill Press at 17-555 Bubbling Wells Rd. Desert Hot Springs, CA 92241 Send a check for the amount of the order plus $3 for each item. For 3 or more items, add $2 per item. Or include your credit card information (name as shown on card, card billing address, expiration date and phone number), as well as shipping address.

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