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Speaking Tips for Anyone Who Talks

A STEADY FLOW OF SOUND ADVICE AND IDEAS at http://gettingoveryourself.wordpress.com

Take the next step in your speaking life by registering for our next “How to Overcome Stress in Public Speaking” 3-day workshop. Don't put it off.

WHEN: Nov 12,13,14, 2014 (See details below.)

All our books are now available as e-books on our website. Kindle versions are also available on Amazon.

Past newsletters are archived on my website, along with articles and tips to make you a better speaker. Go to www.GettingOverYourself.com.

In this issue:

  1. 3 Things Never To Do As A Speaker
  2. How Do You Get Creative
  3. Quotes can make it lively
  4. Take a look at our resource list
  5. Attend another workshop for half price
  6. November Workshop in Pasadena/ In-house seminars


Here are 3 things that consistently top the list of things that annoy the audience. (Avoid them if you don't want to be annoy your audience.)

1. Create bad slides. When you design the slides for your notes, and use them to deliver content, they'll probably be boring and unreadable. Slides should help the audience get an “aha.”

Make your slides as simple as possible (avoid full sentences); and ask yourself these 3 questions:

  • Would I want to look at this slide? If they don't want to look at it, you're swimming upstream.
  • What's the point of this slide? State the point in 5 or 6 words and you'll find things you don't need. Take them out. See how you can visually (without words) make that point. This helps you and the audience.
  • Do I even need this slide? Make every slide justify how using it will help you get the outcome you want. Check out this site for tips from the book Slide:ology.

2. Deliver boring content. Audiences hate to be stuck in a chair listening to things they consider irrelevant.

No subject is boring when the speaker digs into why it's important. So, be clear on why they need this information and how it relates to them. Structure your talk around this. Let them know throughout the talk why it matters to them, as well as telling them before you get to the meat of your talk. Do it right after you've opened with something that gets them to start listening and stop texting.

Use stories, examples, real life applications to help you make your message compelling. People are visual. Visuals on your slides and visual words will help you make your case. For ideas on how to use visual words to create a picture and tell a story, check out the site for Whoever Tells the Best Story Wins by Annette Simmons.

3. Fail to connect. The most important part of any presentation is you connecting with the audience. You connect by talking their language. You connect by sharing information rather than being afraid to be wrong. You connect by paying attention to them and their needs, as well as the next 4 points.

  • Be clear on who they are and what they want and gear you talk to those.
  • Respect them regardless of whether you agree with them or not.
  • Stay conversational and never take anything personally.
  • And don't make fun of any groups of people.
  • As a general rule, there's one thing you can do to make a huge change in all three of those: If you care more about helping the audience than you do about impressing them, you'll automatically be less annoying overall. And you'll be less nervous.


    You can start by thinking about the talks that have engaged you most when you were in the audience. What parts kept your attention?

    Usually, the most memorable things are those that don't sound like everyone else. They fit the speaker's personality and they feel genuine.

    It's tempting to play it safe when you speak and do what everyone else does. It may be safe but probably not especially engaging.

    Relax and think about how you would say this in a friendly conversation with a family member–one who brings out the best in you.

    Think of every day ways you could describe the subject in every day language. Think of TV commercials, and items in the news, and customer interactions. Every day things used to connect your subject to your audience engage your audience. It's creativity in action. And it will help you relax.


    “Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement.” — Helen Keller

    “Start with what is right rather than what is acceptable.” — Peter F.> Drucker

    “Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others.” — Sir Winston Churchill

    “In all affairs it's a healthy thing now and then to hang a question mark on the things you have long taken for granted.” — Bertrand Russell


    Thousands of people have to give presentations every day, and that includes people you know. Take a moment to forward this newsletter to them. And encourage them to sign up for their own subscription.


    As a refresher, workshop graduates may attend for half price at any time. People say they get as much or more out of the workshop the second time around. To register at the discounted price go to: www.gettingoveryourself.com/seminar/repeat.htm


    “How to Overcome the Stress of Public Speaking”

    Pasadena Sheraton: 3-day workshop Nov 12,13,14, 2014

    I have two public seminars each year: Spring and Fall.

    Registration for the 3-day workshop: $1095. Discount for three or more attendees from the same company.

    If you have a number of people who could use this training, please call or e-mail regarding an in-house seminar.

    Visit www.gettingoveryourself.com for details
    or call (626) 792-8075.
    Mailing address: P.O. Box 60521, Pasadena, CA 91116



    “Getting Over Yourself: A Guide to Painless Public Speaking and More” by Barbara Rocha, 210 pages, 2nd Edition, 2004, illustrated, cartoons   $19.95. (E-book Version   $13.95)

    The basic text you'll definitely want to walk you through the pitfalls of public speaking. If you're not comfortable speaking, you must have this book.

    CD ROM

    The “Getting Over Yourself” book read by the author. (set of two): ($19.95)

    Pocket-size books     $9.95 each
    E-book Version     $5.99

    “Pocket Guide for Presenters,” 103 pages

    The Cliff Notes version of “Getting Over Yourself.” No cartoons, and less explanation of the whys and hows. Just the right size to take with you for a quick reminder of all those points you learned in the full size edition or in my seminar.

    “60 Ways to Spark Your Speaking: Just in Time Answers to Frequently Asked Questions,” 154 pages

    Answers specific questions you may have with “what to do when . . .” questions, such as how to deal with a boss who takes over during your presentation, or how to handle your visual aids in a crisis, or how to proceed if everyone is focused on your broken nose.

    “Love to Talk, Hate to Speak? How to Gain Confidence in Front of Any Audience,” 121 pages

    A collection of short vignettes on various parts of speaking you'd like to know more about, such as more information on holding the audience's attention at the end of your presentation, being confident in those first moments before you start to speak, or using the elements of a good conversation to make it easier and more natural speaking to a group.

    Tips booklets $5. each. Can be ordered in quantity for a discount.

    “111 Tips for Getting Results When You Speak”

    “108 Tips for Engaging Your Audience and Solving Those Pesky Speaking Dilemmas”

    “17 Myths of Speaking”

    Speeches on tape:
    “From Bored Room to Board Room,” $10.95

    “Stand Up and Stand Out,” $10.95

    “Getting Over Yourself: A Guide to Painless Public Speaking” featuring Barbara Rocha in excerpts from her book, seminar classes and interactive coaching. 48 minutes. $99.95

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