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Editor's Corner
Excerpted from the August 2002 Newsletter

There is no finish line

For some of us, getting over ourselves is a full time job; it's like Nike's old slogan, "There is no finish line." Just when you think you've got it, something else pops up to remind you, "It's not about you."

For instance, maybe you've figured out that the audience is interested only in themselves, but you still think everyone at the gym is looking at your spare tire.

Or maybe you've figured out that it doesn't matter to anyone else that you're having a bad hair day, but you still think everyone is judging your motor skills because you tripped on the rug or spilled your coffee.

What about going to a meeting or a party alone? And what if you don't know anyone there?

And do you enjoy dancing but refrain in public because you don't want everyone seeing how you dance? Or how do you handle showing up at your high school reunion after all those years facing all those strange looking strangers and feeling like the strangest looking of all? Or do you just not go?

"No finish line" is a good thing because it suggests we always have the capacity to grow, to keep getting better, and to keep becoming freer.

Life keeps throwing curves; we keep learning and changing perspective on a myriad of subjects, and around every corner is a new opportunity to get over ourselves. That's good news, because we have the solution. Almost always we'll discover that this new situation is just a new twist on an old subject, and that it's still not about us.

"When you aim for perfection, you discover it's a moving target." --George Fisher



Dear teach

Ralph J. Colarusso, Project Manager, Turner Construction, Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine:

"Thank you for the speaking tools and coaching. It has really come in handy in making presentations and offering my own staff (and children) some guidance.

"I specifically feel the use of metaphors and visuals in getting technical points across has helped our staff become more clearly understood (and interesting) in owner/architect meetings, and with clients and professional contacts in general."



First person

Sarinah Tambu, Advertising Department, The San Francisco Chronicle:

"I went through your fabulous course once a few years ago and then got the chance to do it all over again a year later.

"Last Saturday my daughter, Azlinah, as part of the graduation ceremony in her summer program, was asked to be the student speaker. She wrote a fabulous speech, which I helped edit. I then coached her on the delivery, using the Barbara Rocha method. I taught her everything you taught me -- lots of pauses, looking at the audience, engaging them with rhetorical questions, using humor, and mostly reminding her that it's not about her but all about the message she was delivering. We practiced the delivery oh, maybe 10 times.

"The program last Saturday consisted of a long evening of entertainment. Then it was my daughter's turn. She delivered what I thought was an incredibly crafted speech, with beautiful articulation and delivery. She paused at the right places, looked up often, told a few jokes, and generally showed a lot of confidence. At the end of the 5 minute speech I was amazed at how fast the 200-strong audience jumped to their feet for a standing ovation that seemed to last a lifetime. People ran up to the front to hug and congratulate her.

"Let me tell you Barbara, I was proud - and I immediately thought of you. Not only did you change MY life (and I mean that!), you are now touching my daughter's life. I must thank you for helping me get over myself. I use your principles both at work and in my private life. I can speak in front of 2000 people with no fear -- and my daughter seems to be heading that way. Thank you again.

By the way, my daughter is 11 years old.



Using notes well

"What is an acceptable way to use notes?"

It's not so much how you use notes as it is how much you think about them. Are they a crutch or a safety net?

If they're a crutch, they keep you tethered mentally and physically, always wondering if you're saying the right thing and what you're supposed to cover next.

Considering them a safety net allows you to have them in a convenient place, available for reference should you need them. In which case, you can quietly walk to where they are, look at them and then look back at the audience and resume talking. It leaves you free to explore ideas with the audience.

It's helpful to remember that in the silence (the pause) the audience is thinking about what you just said and not wondering what's the matter with you nor being critical. That only happens if you act flustered or panicked.

Learn to feel comfortable without notes so you can experience the freedom that comes from exchanging ideas in real time. Then you will be able to use them appropriately when the occasion calls for them.



Try including these in your presentations

"No one is perfect...that's why pencils have erasers."
-- Unknown


"To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, be nothing."
-- Elbert Hubbard

"I never make stupid mistakes. Only very, very clever ones."
-- John Peel

"The man who makes no mistakes does not usually make anything."
-- Edward Phelps

"I am always doing that which I cannot do, in order that I may learn how to do it."
-- Pablo Picasso

"When in doubt, make a fool of yourself. There is a microscopically thin line between being brilliantly creative and acting like the most gigantic idiot on earth. So what the hell, leap."
-- Cynthia Heimel

"Yes, risk taking is inherently failure-prone. Otherwise, it would be called sure-thing-taking."
-- Tim McMahon

"You've got to get to the stage in life where going for it is more important than winning or losing."
-- Arthur Ashe

"You're never as good as everyone tells you when you win, and you're never as bad as they say when you lose."
-- Lou Holtz

"It ain't what they call you, it's what you answer to."
--W.C. Fields

" The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind."
--William James

" If you're going to be able to look back on something and laugh about it-- you might as well laugh about it now."
-- Unknown


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