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Speaking Tips for Anyone Who Talks

A STEADY FLOW OF SOUND ADVICE AND IDEAS at http://gettingoveryourself.wordpress.com

Take the next step in your speaking life by registering for our next “How to Overcome Stress in Public Speaking” 3-day workshop. Don't put it off.

WHEN: October 28, 29, and 30, 2015 (See details below.)

All our books are now available as e-books on our website. Kindle versions are also available on Amazon.

Past newsletters are archived on my website, along with articles and tips to make you a better speaker. Go to www.GettingOverYourself.com.

In this issue:

  1. 3 things you can do to survive without notes
  2. How to talk about yourself
  3. Quotes can make it lively
  4. Take a look at our resource list
  5. Attend another workshop for half price
  6. October Workshop in Pasadena October 28, 29, 30/ In-house seminars


There’s nothing inherently evil about using notes, but if you feel as though you can’t survive without them, you’ll never feel totally engaged with your audience, nor they with you.

Having notes isn’t the problem, it’s the feeling that your brain won’t function without them that’s the problem. It’s really more important (in most situations) that you connect with your audience than that you get every word in the right order in the exact place. And the more you worry about getting it right, the more you’re likely to make mistakes.

So, here are 3 things you can do to stop feeling dependent:

  1. When you put your talk together, make sure it has a logical flow that makes sense to you and be clear on your story line. See the big picture rather than individual words (or numbers).
  2. Try delivering your message in 4 or 5 short sentences, omitting the detail, just being clear on your story line. “We had major problems in production this last quarter. In order to fix them we’re going to do three things: get new tracking software, change the structure of the teams, and put line people through an 18-hour training.
  3. After you’ve constructed your remarks, consider how you might visually represent each of the ideas. You don’t have to be an artist, you need to think visually–no matter how ridiculous those visuals are. Then make a simple stick figure representation of that idea.

Two benefits here: One is that searching for a visual that will trigger your memory on the point causes you to think more deeply-- thereby helping make the topic your own. And two, those visuals will pop back in your head when you need them, much faster than words will.

For instance, in the above example, for the first point you might draw a piece of railroad track, a thumb drive, a computer screen. For the second you might sketch a bridge or scaffolding [structure], a diaper [change], a few coins [again, change] and for the third point, a white board or flip chart, a whip [I tend to picture some animal trainers using a whip–and a whip is easy to draw], or a train [as long as you don’t get confused between “track” for tracking software and “train” for training.]. The pictures only have to trigger the point, so you choose something visual that does that for you.

And here's a bonus point: Walk around the block and practice your talk without using your notes.

If you do all this, you'll have a much better chance of connecting with your audience while also making your point.


Sometimes you need to talk about yourself–maybe because you have to introduce yourself to the audience, or maybe because you need to establish your credibility about a point you’re making.

When you need to do so, be clear that the reason you’re doing it is to help the audience be receptive to your message, or to better understand your message. It’s not about glorifying yourself. If you’ll stay focused on helping, there’s no reason to be self-conscious.

You’ll include things as you introduce yourself that connect what you do and why you’re there to them and to their needs. You’ll realize when you tell a story about yourself, that you’re doing so because it illustrates the point you’re making.

It’s still never about you. Don’t pull away from the remarks about yourself; if you think about it objectively, you’ll come up with things that are fun/interesting to tell, making it easy to deliver and connecting you and the audience.


“People are crying up the rich and variegated plumage of the peacock, and he is himself blushing at the sight of his ugly feet.” — Sa'Di

“It's hard to fight an enemy who has outposts in your head.” — Sally Kempton

“Other people's opinion of you does not have to become your reality.” — Les Brown

“If you doubt yourself, then indeed you stand on shaky ground.” — Henrik Ibsen

“Always hold your head up, but be careful to keep your nose at a friendly level.” — Max L. Forman

“The things we hate about ourselves aren't more real than things we like about ourselves.” — Ellen Goodman

“Just as much as we see in others we have in ourselves.” — William Hazlitt


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“How to Overcome the Stress of Public Speaking”

Pasadena Sheraton: 3-day workshop October 28, 29, and 30, 2015

I have two public seminars each year: Spring and Fall.

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If you have a number of people who could use this training, please call or e-mail regarding an in-house seminar.

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“Getting Over Yourself: A Guide to Painless Public Speaking and More” by Barbara Rocha, 210 pages, 2nd Edition, 2004, illustrated, cartoons   $19.95. (E-book Version   $13.95)

The basic text you'll definitely want to walk you through the pitfalls of public speaking. If you're not comfortable speaking, you must have this book.


The “Getting Over Yourself” book read by the author. (set of two): ($19.95)

Pocket-size books     $9.95 each
E-book Version     $5.99

“Pocket Guide for Presenters,” 103 pages

The Cliff Notes version of “Getting Over Yourself.” No cartoons, and less explanation of the whys and hows. Just the right size to take with you for a quick reminder of all those points you learned in the full size edition or in my seminar.

“60 Ways to Spark Your Speaking: Just in Time Answers to Frequently Asked Questions,” 154 pages

Answers specific questions you may have with “what to do when . . .” questions, such as how to deal with a boss who takes over during your presentation, or how to handle your visual aids in a crisis, or how to proceed if everyone is focused on your broken nose.

“Love to Talk, Hate to Speak? How to Gain Confidence in Front of Any Audience,” 121 pages

A collection of short vignettes on various parts of speaking you'd like to know more about, such as more information on holding the audience's attention at the end of your presentation, being confident in those first moments before you start to speak, or using the elements of a good conversation to make it easier and more natural speaking to a group.

Tips booklets $5. each. Can be ordered in quantity for a discount.

“111 Tips for Getting Results When You Speak”

“108 Tips for Engaging Your Audience and Solving Those Pesky Speaking Dilemmas”

“17 Myths of Speaking”

Speeches on tape:
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“Stand Up and Stand Out,” $10.95

“Getting Over Yourself: A Guide to Painless Public Speaking” featuring Barbara Rocha in excerpts from her book, seminar classes and interactive coaching. 48 minutes. $99.95

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