Editor's Corner FOCUS ON SPEAKING SKILLS 04/06/11 Speaking Tips for Anyone Who Talks LOOK FOR BARB'S BLOG -- A STEADY FLOW OF SOUND ADVICE AND IDEAS at http://gettingoveryourself.wordpress.com Take the next step in your speaking life by registering for our next “How to Overcome Stress in Public Speaking” 3- day workshop. Don't put it off. WHEN: May 4, 5, 6, 2011 (See details below.) Have you missed issues of the newsletter? They're archived on our website, along with articles and tips to make you a better speaker. Go to www.GettingOverYourself.com. In this issue: It's okay to be yourself First person How do you keep the speakers on time? Quotes can make it lively Take a look at our resource list Attend another workshop for half price May Workshop in Pasadena/ In-house seminars It's Okay To Be Yourself You've heard that before. The tough part is putting it into practice. It all goes back to getting over yourself. Your goal is to help the audience and you can do that more easily when you're being yourself. When you're easy, your natural gestures and manner of speaking take over and the audience can relax and listen. You have their trust. (Here's the link to a recent blog I wrote on that subject: http://gettingoveryourself.wordpress.com/2011/03/01/b uilding-trust-counts-on-the-bottom-line/) If you have a sense of humor, something funny may occur to you. If it's appropriate and you won't distract yourself with it (that is, you can get right back on track), you look more human and likeable. For best results, get out of the way and be yourself. FIRST PERSON Brian Sepanik, Director of Finance and Accounting, San Francisco Marriott Marquis “I'm applying the concepts from class and I feel my executive presence is enhanced. “I've been focusing on answering questions without my voice sounding like I'm asking a question and also on staying in the moment, which helps slow me down. “I had a conference call with my owner last week that I feel went better than usual. On another call, I considered my response instead of answering before I knew my answer. Big difference. “I've also become very comfortable with 'I'd be glad to' when asked to do something. “Thanks for all your help.” Staying In the Time Frame “I hate being the last speaker at a conference and having to cut mine short because others have run over. Now that I'm going to be the moderator, how do I keep the meeting on time?” Good for you. Proactive is good. And when the speaker runs over, everyone is annoyed. First: The big cheese needs to tell speakers ahead of time that the time limits aren't just suggestions. Speakers need to plan to speak 10% less than their time and they need to practice with any props or visual aids to verify the actual time. They need to decide what they can leave out if they're running long. And they need to respect other people's time. Second: You tell them what signals you'll give them to help them stay on time. For instance, “When you have one minute left, I'll stand up. When you have 30 seconds left, I'll come up on the platform. And, when your time is up, I'll be standing right next to you and thanking you.” That may not be your style, but you need to have a plan and make sure they know you mean it. Quotes to Make You a Better Speaker “Your imagination is your preview of life's coming attractions.” - Albert Einstein “We only do what we think we can do. We can be only what we think we can be. We can have only what we think we can have. What we do, what we are, what we have, all depend on what we think” - Robert Collier “We do not keep the outward form of order where there is deep disorder in the mind.” - Wm. Shakespeare “We are always equal to what we undertake with resolution.” - Thomas Jefferson FORWARD THIS NEWSLETTER TO A FRIEND Thousands of people have to give presentations every day, and that includes people you know. Take a moment to forward this newsletter to them. And encourage them to sign up for their own subscription. RE-ATTEND FOR HALF PRICE As a refresher, workshop graduates (from any of my 3-day workshops) may attend for half price at any time. People have said they get as much or more out of the workshop the second time around. WORKSHOP "How to Overcome the Stress of Public Speaking" Pasadena Sheraton: 3-day workshop May 4, 5, 6, 2011 I have two public seminars each year: May and November. Registration for the 3-day workshop: $1095. Discount for three or more attendees from the same company. If you have a number of people who could use this training, please call or e-mail regarding an in-house seminar. Visit www.gettingoveryourself.com for details or call (888) 800-2001 or (626) 792-8075. Mailing address: P.O. Box 60521, Pasadena, CA 91116 Book "Getting Over Yourself: A Guide to Painless Public Speaking and More" by Barbara Rocha, 210 pages, 2nd Edition, 2004, illustrated, cartoons $19.95. The basic text you'll definitely want to walk you through the pitfalls of public speaking. If you're not comfortable speaking, you must have this book. Audiotape or CD ROM The "Getting Over Yourself" book read by the author. Audiotapes (set of three): ($17.95); CD ROMs (set of two): ($19.95)./p> Pocket-size books $9.95 each "Pocket Guide for Presenters," 103 pages The Cliff Notes version of "Getting Over Yourself." No cartoons, and less explanation of the whys and hows. 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